What is your judgment about money?
Where did you learn it from?
We have an invisible relationship with money, and it is unseen because we simply do not call it or recognize it as a relationship.
When we start perceiving that we have a relationship with money, we become curious about the nature of this relationship and observe how it affects our lives.
The more we pay attention and unveil the money mask, the more we notice how invading and intense this relationship is.
This relationship affects and influences our decisions, our moods, and our well-being.
For example, in Construction, money is disguised behind any contract, variation work, claims, or invoices, payment to the suppliers and subcontractors, and procurement of materials. It is in the productivity and efficiency of both labor and staff. It is in the design implementations, the recruitment and laying off of employees, time management, and so much more.
The closer we look at most businesses, the more we notice that the majority of the work activities are masks covering money.
When the outcome of our work is our concern, we feel rewarded and accomplished when it is what we expected, and when it is not, we become frustrated and annoyed.
Behind all these activities and results, money is the driving force. Money is the invisible hand.
The positive and negative emotions associated with our work always have money as their source. Most of our work activities are money-related.
Improving our relationship with money will have a direct impact on our work relationship.
Not caring about money or being indifferent about it is not a sign of an improved relationship. Similarly, caring too much to the point of becoming worried and fearful about it.
How can we improve our money relationship?
When we start imagining money as our best friend (BFF), we want to improve our relationship with it.
What would we do?
I want to stop judging and start accepting my BFF.
We want to stop judging and start accepting money the way it presents itself, slow, fast, delayed, not coming, or coming. The same way we would accept our BFF how and when they would show up.
A good relationship is built on giving them freedom as much as on caring about being with them.
The more our attitude towards money is rooted in acceptance, the more we start accepting the issues behind money as they arise and dealing with them with a peaceful mindset.
I want to be appreciative of my BFF.
Learn how to appreciate the inflow and outflow of money, regardless of its amount. Similarly, as we appreciate the time we spend with our friends, it is not about the quantity but rather the quality of the time we spend with them.
So when we start appreciating the two-directional flow regardless of its amount, we will be allowing more inflow and outflow to materialize. Similarly, our friends will freely show up more because they feel welcome and loved even when they leave.
This appreciation of the in-out flow of money will allow money to flow easier in our lives, and when money flows easily, less and less effort will be exerted on our work.
In short, the more we appreciate the flow of money, the more we will get money to manage and appreciate.
What if we had an infinite amount of money? Would we ever be triggered?
The real problem with our relationship with money is the fear of facing a shortage—the fear of a lack of money.
The real issue is the feeling of not having enough.
When we practice being present and do not let our minds wander in the past or the future about money.
We could experience enough money; we could experience the abundance that is ever present at the moment, right now.
We will realize that there is always enough, right now.
When we experience this abundance, we can return to this feeling of abundance in every moment. Then we realize that scarcity is only a story of the past or the future, never the present.
Our relationship with money is geared toward the past and is projected into the future. No scarcity exists at the moment, and no judgment exists in the present, only appreciation, gratitude, and abundance.
Be present. Accept, appreciate, and joggle with joy and gratitude about money and all that money can afford so that you may embrace a peaceful relationship with your work.
What are my actual judgments about money?
How can I create more positive feelings with money?
How can I be grateful for giving and receiving, regardless of the amount?