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Portiuncula, Illinois

They say, “Come to the woods, for here is rest.” And this is my destination: Portiuncula, the Center of Prayer, Illinois.

The woods hold a hypnotic silence. In this silence, without objects, humans, stimulation, excitement, and attraction, the external quiet begins to meet the internal stillness.

 

In This Silence, I Discover

I realize that in the absence of happiness, there is also an absence of sadness. Happiness and sadness are two sides of the same coin. One wave rises and falls, and the other follows. Yet the silence, the source from which they arise and return, remains constant.

This paradox of silence is striking; it seems empty yet is full. It still stirs every emotion. I find peace and a roller coaster of feelings within this void of silence.

As I desire happiness, I become attached, not just to joy, but to the suffering that comes with chasing it. The more I seek, the more I cling to both sides of the coin.

But if I allow happiness to come, without pursuit, and let grief pass, without resistance, I rest in the silence that births them both. Emotions move like clouds and waves, never permanent, always passing.

 

The Nature of the Mind

In extended silence, I watch the mind’s tendencies, which constantly fool me into getting out of it. For the mind, silence is boring and makes no sense. My mind is afraid of that silence; when faced with it, it will start creating all the stories to get me away.

For the mind, Silence is nothing; it is a no thing. The mind will jump, speak, and shout to get me out.

It grows restless and uncomfortable in this “nothingness.” It starts telling stories, creating distractions, inventing worries, begging for action, analysis, or planning.

Silence is threatening. It is where the mind loses its grip, its illusions of control, and its very identity.
The mind fears this silence because it knows that this is the source from which it comes. If I could stay in that source, my mind could not fool me anymore. By not fooling me, it would lose its power and existence, and silence would win.

The mind will fight this silence with all means.


The Inner Battle

Over ten days, I enjoyed this arena and watched this inner battle: the mind and the body resisting silence, wrestling it, trying to win.

But in witnessing this struggle without engagement, I witnessed the astonishing scene I have ever experienced. The dynamic between mind and silence is a relationship: friend and enemy, lover and hater, servant and master, teacher and student.

 

The Chatter and the Virus

In the heart of silence, I uncovered how much my inner chatter has intoxicated my life. It’s not just a single thought that causes suffering, but the inner talks I spin around and amplify.

This inner storytelling is a virus, a parasite that grows stronger as I indulge it, pulling me away from the magnificence of silence.

A thought can come, either I let it be or let it go. But it starts spreading when I amplify it, give it meaning, repeat it, and attach to it. And suffering grows.

The problem isn’t the thought itself, whether good or bad; it’s the habit of feeding it and the value I place on the inner dialogue.

 

The Meaning of Purity

In this retreat, I understood purity not as perfection, but as the absence of these viruses, this inner noise. That is where silence lives.

Before this retreat, I believed that replacing negative thoughts with positive ones was a sign of progress. But I now see that true faith doesn’t require inner talk, and my path is best known, with one thought, one action at a time.

Silence doesn’t need commentary.

There is a greater power that knows my way and every way. My inner dialogue is a sign of a lack of trust in the one who knows the way, and a sign that my ego, my limited mind, knows better the way.

 Faith knows the way even when I don’t.

 

The Wolves Within

Letting go of inner chatter is difficult because it gives a false sense of control, security, and approval. But the more I fall in love with silence, the quieter that chatter becomes.

 

And so, a question arises:

If I have two wolves, one of silence, and one of inner talk. Which shall I feed? 

This choice defines everything.

It determines whether I live as a servant to my mind or as the master of it.

 

 

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The Symbol of the Labyrinth

Labyrinths are archetypes, divine imprints found across all religions. Unlike mazes, they
have only one path. There are no tricks, no dead ends. The winding path becomes a
mirror, gently reflecting where we are in our lives. It touches our sorrows and releases
our joys.

 

Trust over Control

On my first walk through the labyrinth, I knew I would eventually reach the center. Even
though I did not know the exact direction, I trusted the one who created it. I walked
peacefully, step by step, breath by breath, and arrived at the center after a long, quiet
journey.

 

This round taught me that I don’t need to control, be certain, or fully understand the path
of life. I can trust the Maker; my path is already scripted. My role is to walk peacefully,
faithfully, and with grace.

 

When our Mind Takes Over

On my second round through the labyrinth, I tried again to focus on my breath and
steps. But inner stories surfaced; some joyful, others painful. I lingered or resisted, and
in both cases, I lost presence. I was no longer walking; I was reacting.


Life is not Flat

This walk revealed a deeper truth: life is not just a single path; it’s a labyrinth overlaid
with a roller coaster, with our thoughts and emotions rising and falling. The paradox is
that we choose to ride the highs and lows, yet often blame others for where we are.

 

Return to Silence

The labyrinth reminds me I don’t need to control the journey. If I trust the path, the
destination reveals itself; it lives within me. Beneath the chaos lies quiet ground. Let
emotions appear and dissolve. Stay rooted. And keep walking.

 

How much energy do we waste trying to control a path that may already unfold exactly as it should?

 

Are our inner narratives guiding or distracting us from what truly matters?

 

How can we return to a deeper ground of clarity and presence in times of chaos?

 

 

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In the last 10 days, I surrendered my mobile, my book, my pen and paper and I spent 10 days in a retreat with a group of 35 people. A silence retreat where we avoid any form of eye contact, and any form of interaction or communication.

Here is my in-the-silence experience for 10 consecutive days.

In the Silence, our problem gets dissolved.

In the silence, I could hear my inner voice chatter louder than ever before. With no interruption
or distraction, the chatter was longer, louder, tedious, and deeper, and reached new explorations.

After these long inner explorations, peace surfaces; a peace that brought more clarity, certainty, serenity, and sobriety to my issues.

In the Silence, our problems get resolved and are dissolved.

In the Silence, stress disappears.

When there is an action to take and we don’t take it, stress or anxiety are indeed caused by lack of action. Stress or anxiety is attributed to that lack of action, that we are either unaware of, avoiding, denying, or not wanting to take. I always knew that anxiety is mended by taking proper action.

What if you have to act and you cannot because you are in a silent retreat?

In the Silence, I experienced the impermanence and ephemerality of these anxieties as they are
surfacing and leaving, appearing and disappearing. I encounter their breakability and their lack
of tenacity.

In the Silence, fear appears and miraculously dissolves and disappears.

In the Silence, we freshly discover ourselves.

The longer you stay in silence, the longer you discover all your judgment about others, yourself, and the world, you also meet your behavioral patterns, like anticipation, impatience, annoyance, and others that will become more discernable. Even though I knew them, they showed up with more clarity and lucidity.

In the Silence, we become more intimate with ourselves.

Silence is the gift of true presence.

During the period of silence, we appear to be present due to a lack of distraction. Our thoughts will multiply but we become more present with them. I sensed my presence in the environment and among this group of people. I experienced my observation, my judgment, my critical self, my appreciative self, my body, my feelings, and my mind more than ever before.

In silence, I witness myself as more perceptible, and noticing this becomes a true presence.

In the Silence, peace rises and leads the way.

I had experienced peace but never like after these 10 days of silence. I experienced a deeper layer of peace. A peace that contains so much calmness. I felt an unshakable inner peace that could not be touched or affected. I was wishing that this inner peace could stay within me forever, I wanted to hold on to it. As much as this deep inner peace was felt inside, it also included all the environment around me.

Silence leads and dives us into a deep layer of peace.

Before heading to the 10-day silence retreat, I had all the reasons in the world not to go there, actually, I was not ready, since I was overwhelmed with challenges and facing many unsettled and serious issues. I felt it was not the right choice at this given time in my life. Although Something bigger than me was pulling over there, I was resisting; but still, I was heading there.

After leaving this retreat I discovered that this is what I needed the most.

What I learned is to trust in the power of silence especially when I have challenging decisions to
make and when I feel overwhelmed, stressed, and anxious.

 

If conversations are waves in the ocean, silence is the ocean.

Learn to trust in the immensity of the ocean instead of just one passing and changing wave in the ocean.

***Do you want to be liberated? Visit www.projectlibertas.info.

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What is your judgment about money?
Where did you learn it from?

We have an invisible relationship with money, and it is unseen because we simply do not call it or recognize it as a relationship.

When we start perceiving that we have a relationship with money, we become curious about the nature of this relationship and observe how it affects our lives.

The more we pay attention and unveil the money mask, the more we notice how invading and intense this relationship is.  

This relationship affects and influences our decisions, our moods, and our well-being.

For example, in Construction, money is disguised behind any contract, variation work, claims, or invoices, payment to the suppliers and subcontractors, and procurement of materials. It is in the productivity and efficiency of both labor and staff. It is in the design implementations, the recruitment and laying off of employees, time management, and so much more.

The closer we look at most businesses, the more we notice that the majority of the work activities are masks covering money.

When the outcome of our work is our concern, we feel rewarded and accomplished when it is what we expected, and when it is not, we become frustrated and annoyed.

Behind all these activities and results, money is the driving force. Money is the invisible hand.

The positive and negative emotions associated with our work always have money as their source. Most of our work activities are money-related.

Improving our relationship with money will have a direct impact on our work relationship.

Not caring about money or being indifferent about it is not a sign of an improved relationship. Similarly, caring too much to the point of becoming worried and fearful about it.

 

How can we improve our money relationship?

When we start imagining money as our best friend (BFF), we want to improve our relationship with it.

What would we do?

I want to stop judging and start accepting my BFF.

We want to stop judging and start accepting money the way it presents itself, slow, fast, delayed, not coming, or coming. The same way we would accept our BFF how and when they would show up.

A good relationship is built on giving them freedom as much as on caring about being with them.

The more our attitude towards money is rooted in acceptance, the more we start accepting the issues behind money as they arise and dealing with them with a peaceful mindset.

 

I want to be appreciative of my BFF.

Learn how to appreciate the inflow and outflow of money, regardless of its amount. Similarly, as we appreciate the time we spend with our friends, it is not about the quantity but rather the quality of the time we spend with them.

So when we start appreciating the two-directional flow regardless of its amount, we will be allowing more inflow and outflow to materialize. Similarly, our friends will freely show up more because they feel welcome and loved even when they leave.

This appreciation of the in-out flow of money will allow money to flow easier in our lives, and when money flows easily, less and less effort will be exerted on our work.

In short, the more we appreciate the flow of money, the more we will get money to manage and appreciate.

 

What if we had an infinite amount of money? Would we ever be triggered?

The real problem with our relationship with money is the fear of facing a shortage—the fear of a lack of money.

The real issue is the feeling of not having enough. 

When we practice being present and do not let our minds wander in the past or the future about money. 

We could experience enough money; we could experience the abundance that is ever present at the moment, right now.

We will realize that there is always enough, right now.

When we experience this abundance, we can return to this feeling of abundance in every moment. Then we realize that scarcity is only a story of the past or the future, never the present.

Our relationship with money is geared toward the past and is projected into the future. No scarcity exists at the moment, and no judgment exists in the present, only appreciation, gratitude, and abundance.

Be present. Accept, appreciate, and joggle with joy and gratitude about money and all that money can afford so that you may embrace a peaceful relationship with your work.  

 

What are my actual judgments about money?
How can I create more positive feelings with money?
How can I be grateful for giving and receiving, regardless of the amount?

***Do you want to be liberated? Visit www.projectlibertas.info.

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Are there particular tasks where you find strong resistance to getting started?

Are some projects just lingering on your to-do list?

I had committed to writing a blog every month, and I did write for a while until I had to interrupt my commitment for more than 6 months and not resume until I started again with this article.

What was happening?

I believed that the reason for my interruption was the chaotic days; my life was not progressing as I expected it to be.

I was waiting for the right time to start again. The right time is when work will be rolling successfully, my mind will be at peace and my life in full order. In the mess I could not write, in the turmoil writing will be untidy and inappropriate.

It was impossible for me to open a new white page or even to consider beginning. No inspiration could come up in this disorder.  Writing had a lot of benefits and without writing I felt something is missing in my life, I felt awkward not standing up to my commitment. The thought of delaying was very annoying for me and yet could not start.

Last week, l conducted a workshop about procrastination.

The working definition of Procrastination is the voluntary delay of an intended action despite expecting it to be worth it if delayed.

To my greatest surprise, I noticed that this definition is fitting my situation in writing. In fact, after 6 months I ran out of excuses that could delay my writing and found out without a doubt that I was voluntarily delaying the act of writing.

What made me voluntarily delay something that I knew was rewarding for me?

Time after time, I had an open schedule to write, and could not initiate writing a short paragraph. My dilemma was not a time management problem.

The real issue for me was the fact that I was running away from meeting my imaginary sadness and frustration and I did not want to disappoint myself by not being able to write well in the midst of the chaos. I was avoiding an imaginary disappointment that inevitably could rise when I would attempt again, therefore I was delaying and delaying again.

Procrastination is a delay but not every delay is procrastination. It is not a time-management problem; or a purposeful delay, but it is an emotion-regulation problem.

It is during the workshop that I realized that I have built a procrastination habit around writing. I have created other compulsory habits such as watching TV, drinking, or eating as a stress relief strategy for not writing.

With this awareness, I wanted to regulate this habit and apply the principles shared.

By applying these principles, I am writing again.

Here is a fast way out of Procrastination.

Start with the following…

  • Look at the bigger picture of what you want to do or see the whole puzzle until completion.
  • Visualize in detail yourself doing and completing the task.
  • Have an accountability partner/s.

Then know that you are not a Procrastinator, but that you have a habit of Procrastinating on specific things. Know when the habit is triggered, that you are stressing about something, and follow the steps below:

  • Accept – The habit of procrastination is activated- welcome it.
  • Aware – I am fully aware that this is a stress relief from facing the imaginary negative emotions associated with the task. 
  • Ask – What are the advantages of breaking this habit? 
  • Action – What is the smallest step I can take toward this goal?
  • Accountability – I am committed to breaking these habits. Interrupt it right now.
  • Acknowledge – I appreciate myself for breaking this habit

Wisdom is the ability to follow our own advice. And if we don’t we are harming ourselves, we are undermining our performance, our well-being, and our health.

If you are feeling guilty delaying your tasks most probably you are having a procrastination habit.

And when you are feeling guilty about knowing what to do but we do not do it, this guilt could transform into shame and in turn affect your health.

Break the cycle of Procrastination try these steps or any other ones, and the more you reduce your Procrastination habits, the more you could boost your performance, your well-being, and even your health.

 

Procrastination is usually harmful, sometimes harmless but never helpful.

***Do you want to be liberated? Visit www.projectlibertas.info.

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As we go through a challenging situation and are afraid that life will turn in an unwanted direction; we will start to rationalize, plan, react, try to gain control over the situation, and influence the issue in our favor.

We are driven to choose, decide and act based on the type of reasons, logic, interpretation, feelings, and emotions that come to us.

This is necessary, comforting, and reassuring, and makes us feel influencing and controlling the outcome.

What if we realize that this challenge is an opportunity to discover and evolve into a greater power?

What if we trust and understand that there is a power that takes care of us without our help, a power that already knows the way and will always put us in the right place?

What if we use challenges to allow ourselves to surrender our mind, control, influence, and interpretation to a greater power that would take care of us better than we could ever imagine?

However, these choices might be obstructed by the belief that if we are not in charge and not reacting, we are stagnant and useless.

And what if challenges are the opportunity to defy any beliefs and to experience that the less we reduce our grip and control on the desired outcome, the more we are available to the rising moment, and the more we will interfere just enough to take care of the present situation even better.

What is this great Power?

This great power is the power of Spontaneity.

How can we meet challenges with the power of Spontaneity?

All we need to experience this power is to be prepared and ready to meet challenges by realizing that they are here for us. And to be willing to surrender and trust in the spontaneous power that always knows the right way which is not necessarily our way.

When we find ourselves trying and making a mental effort to get where we desire, just be willing to surrender our thoughts and wants.

Welcome our current spontaneous power, reside and trust in the arising spontaneity that knows how to take care of us.

When we surrender to this instinctive power, we free ourselves from our wanted outcome, from our longing and desires and we will follow the path that knows The Way.

 

Liberty is to meet challenges with the power of spontaneity.

***Do you want to be liberated? Visit www.projectlibertas.info.

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We all experience happiness, and feel joyful sometimes, but have you ever experienced everlasting joy? A joy that is without limit. Honestly, I cannot conceive what limitless joy is like. I could comprehend enormous joy, abundant joy, superior joy, but Joy with no limit at all?

What must that be like? Why is it difficult to conceive?

I believe we have learned to set a mental limit on our Joy, and made out of Joy a function of circumstances and situations. We have also created a belief that it is too dangerous to be Joyful all the time – this could lead to stagnation, unproductivity, or being careless.

It is becoming harder to recognize Joy as our real nature, with all the conditions and limits we place on it. Our minds or our beliefs have been acting like a regulator on our inner thermostats of happiness and Joy.

We can be joyful but the regulator will interfere to not let the temperature of Joy be at its ideal but at its normal according to cultures, norms, and rules.

Most of us walk around with a false sense of Joy. I am happy because it is a beautiful day, the sun is shining, the wind is mild, the flowers are blooming, and I am going to the beach.

I am happy because things are going my way because I have a nice car, a modern house, decent salary. We have made Joy dependent on circumstances, situations, and desires.

If we rest our minds and fall into our hearts, can we feel the Joy, can we just feel it within us not because of something? Simply feel it with no “because”.

We have to get this straight. Joy with any sense of “a because” is a false Joy. It is a mentally fabricated joy that is limited. It is like an ocean wave that is waiting for the current to be weak or strong to appear or disappear.

We get involved in looking for a rosy situation to feel joy; then a new situation appears and we are unhappy again. So we have to get involved in new activities to bring back the joy.

One of the reasons we get involved in external activities to stimulate Joy is that we believe that joy is external to us. The other reason is that we search for Joy as a way to get away from unhappiness or other negative feelings.

The only way to tune again to your unlimited Joy is to realize that Joy has nothing to do with person, place, and people. Joy is unconditional, it is your real nature and the more you understand that Joy is who you are, the more you are getting closer to unlimited Joy.

Can you be unhappy at the moment? Can you be unhappy if you are not thinking of some conditions or situations you do not like?

Learn to live and be in the moment. Learn to feel Joy within and not to search for Joy.

Do not think – just experience and feel Joy now. When you feel unconditional Joy one time you would experience the Joy that is available all the time. You will realize what unlimited Joy is like.

 

Liberty is to feel this Joy that is independent of any ideas, circumstances, and imaginations and to choose to return to it anytime you want to.

***Do you want to be liberated? Visit www.projectlibertas.info.

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At any moment in our life, we are either acting from fear or acting from love, our thoughts and emotions are either coming from fear or from love.

We are always moving into a path of fear or a path of love, these two paths are not always clear and are disguised under several layers that we tend to not be aware of.

We all experience both, but the one that is normal is the path of fear. The vast majority of relationships, decisions, and actions in our world are based on fear, and lesser is based on love.

Let us shed some light on these two paths and distinguish the different faces of fear and love, and let’s do that by asking ourselves:

 

Am I acting out of fear or out of love?

 

Am I acting out of obligation or willingness?

Actions driven by obligations are concealed with fear. We will be making decisions because we should, we must, or we have to. Somehow, there is a hidden requirement, and as long as we feel obliged we will be developing resistance, and the more we resist the more effort is required.

Love actions are driven by willingness and wanting requires no effort and contains no resistance since our decisions and action are based on free will.

The path of love is the path of flow, fun, and joy.

 

Am I acting out of expectations or acceptance?

Actions driven by expectations are covered with fear. When acting from love, we do not expect something to happen.  If nothing happens, it is not important. Our actions are rooted in acceptance, appreciation, learning, and growth.

Actions driven by love are independent of the outcome, and never hurt or disappoint.

 

Am I acting out of sympathy or empathy?

Actions driven by self-pity and sympathy are veiled with fear. When we feel sorry and see others as victims, we are not respecting and honouring the experience of others. Actions driven by love are based on respect and empathy.

Love is courage, compassion, and trust. It allows people the dignity of their experience.

 

Am I taking partial or full responsibility?

Actions driven by partial, shared responsibility are screened with fear. Fear avoids full responsibility and leaves room for blame. When we are taking hundred percent responsibility for our actions, we are taking full responsibility for our emotions and well-being.

An action driven by love is stemming from the belief that we are the co-creator of our world.

 

Am I acting out of emotions or serenity?

Actions driven by emotions such as anger, jealousy, and sadness are masked by fear. An action driven by love is always serene, kind, and caring.

Actions driven by love are generous and selfless.

 

Am I doing it to be loved or for the love?

Fear always hides behind conditions – statements such as, I love you if, or I love you because. 

An act from love is unconditional and free from reasons and justifications.

 

We can keep going: Am I acting out of fear or out of love?

Am I isolating myself or trying to create intimacy?

Am I trying to create secrecy or do I want privacy?

Am I rescuing others or trying to facilitate?

Am I persecuting or challenging?

….

 

As you have noticed, how fear finds unlimited ways to conceal itself and wear various masks that are subtle to be recognized.

Our first step is to recognize and distinguish the place that our actions come from.

The second step is to be willing to accept that state.

When we recognize and when we are willing to fully accept our fear, when we allow ourselves to be at peace with that fear, only then can we have access to our free choice – the choice to shift the fear to love.

When we shift the source of our actions from fear to love, we are freeing our actions from fear – we are setting ourselves free.

 

To act from fear is bondage.
To act from love is freedom.

***Do you want to be liberated? Visit www.projectlibertas.info.

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]]> My Favorite Business Is Loving https://nadimbitar.com/my-favorite-business-is-loving/ Sun, 13 Feb 2022 08:41:05 +0000 https://nadimbitar.com/?p=214945 When the purpose of my work becomes connected with spaces and people, it does not only help me to Love my Construction business, but it also reminds me once more to make Love be my favorite business.

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One of the reasons I like to call my Construction business Coach-truction because it keeps me attuned to notice the love in every part of the Construction process.

Last Wednesday was Sports Day in Qatar, and I visited a park that we have constructed few years ago.

During my walk around the park, I saw kids playing joyfully, families relaxing and friends gathering. I felt happily connected with them, playing and soothing.

As I was observing, I somehow sensed that I form a part of them. They did not know it, but I did.

Kids were playing and smiling – even though their smiles were not directed to me, it felt as if their smiles were targeted at me. I smiled back in return.

My smile did not leave me until I left the park. I felt showered with joy. I felt like an unseen man who works invisibly and mysteriously, to contribute and to create a place for the benefit of others.

I would like to keep this feeling anchored in my heart – to expand my love for my Construction Business a little more. 

 

Then I felt that…

When we build schools, we are contributing to creating a learning space for students’ education.

When we build offices, we are contributing to creating interactive spaces for people to work together.

When we build car parks, we are contributing to creating comfortable spaces for people to park their cars.

When we build parks, we are contributing to creating a happy space for kids, family, and friends.

Anything we build is intended for the good of people and for the greater good.

 

 

This feeling of service and contribution became apparent as I was visiting our old completed projects.

Visiting these spaces helped me remember the meaning of our construction work, why we are constructing, and for whom.

Construction is not only about equipment, labor, material, resources, time, and financial management, but it is sure about the purpose it serves. This is what I aim the most – to keep my intention aligned with the purpose our work is serving.

 

When the purpose of my work becomes connected with spaces and people, it does not only help me to Love my Construction business, but it also reminds me once more to make Love be my favorite business.

When I make Love as my occupation, I always search for what I have not yet loved, to include it and to increase my love repertoire.

Like any business, the more you give yourself to it, the more you will get. Similarly with Love, the more I give myself to Love, the more it multiplies, and the more that the Love for my work expands.

 

What do you love the most about your work?

What could you love more about your work?

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After six months, do you still remember your 2021 New Year’s resolution?

One of my 2021 New Year’s resolutions was to sit in a Lotus Posture. Since the onset of this year, I hung this resolution on the “Wall of Goals” in our office and after six months, my determination to sit in the lotus posture is stronger than ever before.

To keep my goal alive, I decided to have an accountability partner – my Yoga Instructor, Veronika.

I have never done Yoga in my life. My body is rigid like a rock; it is not an exaggeration. I cannot bend to touch my feet. I cannot sit in a cross-legged-straight-back or even on hunchback. When I try, I lose my balance and I fall backwards.

When we started, I asked Veronika if she thinks that I would be able to meet my target to sit down in a lotus posture before the end of the year. She looked at me and did not answer. It then became clear to me that it was a difficult mission. I understood and respected her nonresponse as she was observing my high rigidity level and not seeing my high determination to achieve this goal.

Veronika is a highly punctual, strict, and infinitely patient instructor. She has zero-tolerance for her yoga postures and counts as they must be achieved perfectly, always with a smile and sarcastic fun. Veronika insists on deleting the words impossible and difficult during her session but instead, replacing them with challenging and inspiring.

After practicing an infinite variety of postures for six consecutive months, I managed to sit down in a cross-legged position without falling backwards. For many, it is a natural posture, but for me – it is as if I was becoming supernatural. It was a significant achievement! I trust that I will keep on going for another six months, or whatever it takes to reach my target. I have had many resolutions and goals in the past that I did not pursue, and abandoned.

What made me achieve it this far, and how can I trust that I will meet my target on this particular goal?

I realized that what keeps me going, is that I have said a wholehearted and whole-body Yes! to my goal. This Goal has a physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual dimension for me, and when I said yes, I said it for and from these four dimensions…

Physical

Sitting in a lotus posture will help me straighten my back, which will reduce stress, resulting in lesser back pain and a healthier body.

 

Emotional

Joy and excitement are connected with this goal as I will be breaking through a limitation that I have created for myself.

 

Intellectual

My goal is self-determined. No one ever told me that I should sit in a lotus posture. I am learning to understand my body’s limitation and potential.

 

Spiritual

This goal helped me to slow down, and while sitting back in a cross-legged position, my spine straightens, and I could achieve a more profound connection in my prayers and meditation.

As this Goal is benefiting my four intelligence centers, and at the same time my body, mind, emotion, and spiritual beings are engaged in the process and the journey – I sensed certainty to pursue my Goal.  

Beliefs that could prevent me from accomplishing this Goal and how to address them.

I do not have a flexible body; Yoga is not for me.

Say Yes, to the Yoga of Nadim

 

Yoga is not a priority.

Yoga makes me more engaged with my Priorities.

I cannot fix an inherited hunch back.

Elevating the four centers of intelligence can elevate and straighten my back.

Lotus Posture is Impossible.

Lotus Posture is an exciting challenge.

 

Pray and meditate on a comfortable chair.

Pray and meditate unconditionally.

I cannot depend only on my instructor.

Veronika is sent for me to complete this mission.

 

 

When I said a wholehearted and whole-body Yes! to my goal, I was not only pursuing my ultimate target, but I became more engaged and appreciative of the little progresses and developments in my four centers of intelligence. I also felt that I am doing it for myself, and by being more active and of service, everyone else is benefiting.

 

I sensed that my Yes is including the whole. It is for me and for everybody – as if I am saying Yes on behalf of everyone. It is a wholeness Yes!

 

What makes you certain that you will pursue your Goal/s?

What makes you uncertain that you will pursue your Goal/s?

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